Because so many thought Eva Hesse was just "Tom's wife".
Because so many thought Esther Broner was just "Bob's wife".
Because Sister Butterfly felt the impact of LDS women who can only introduce themselves by their husband's and children's accomplishments and Mraynes discussed the issues of wives giving up their own ambitions to support their husbands.
Because I just spent two hours cleaning the kitchen, and holiday preparations have kept me from my work for almost a whole month. Which isn't the same thing as being identified as merely DH's wife, but seems to fit as I currently feel my identity being absorbed by housework. And it also triggers all my own insecurities about even claiming I have "my work" (who the hell do I think I am?)
(Perhaps also exacerbated by an approaching birthday and a sense of having accomplished not much.)
So I'm just feeling kinda lousy lately. But it might also just be the weather.