tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post8962390686769003955..comments2023-04-03T04:00:20.248-07:00Comments on figuring it out...: singing at family dinnerUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-35542238228145239272010-10-03T14:00:15.713-07:002010-10-03T14:00:15.713-07:00G, my heart is with you. I always worry about my ...G, my heart is with you. I always worry about my boys, and how these things will affect them. But the fact that you are aware of it and caring about how he feels will mean more in the end than anything else. You're wonderful, and you are being true to yourself. I think he will see that. (sorry I'm late to comments here :))khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02788159137030617997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-44794568293956368202010-09-07T08:36:11.045-07:002010-09-07T08:36:11.045-07:00I had an experience like that when Kinely's ba...I had an experience like that when Kinely's baby (Jared) was blessed. We were all getting ready for church Aidan asked "where are we going?" and I said "to church", to that he said "what's church?"...this was right in front of mom!! I could see her face fall, and all of her fears about her grandchildren being raised in darkness confirmed! So I explained to "Nana"https://www.blogger.com/profile/16094068480376811896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-25307448035973387872010-09-06T18:52:07.322-07:002010-09-06T18:52:07.322-07:00Aaron: MUST learn soviet natl anthem in Russian! :...Aaron: MUST learn soviet natl anthem in Russian! :)<br /><br />Henadis: thanks for the comment! I guess, what I am concerned with is doing what I can to try to forestall as much sense of familial alienation as is possible. We no longer share a similar religious tradition with the extended family as a whole... but I'm hoping there will be other ways to still feel like we belong. <br /><br /galen dara https://www.blogger.com/profile/02987352194018060353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-16524358553019629392010-09-06T11:31:17.002-07:002010-09-06T11:31:17.002-07:00So, this is only slightly off-topic. You should te...So, this is only slightly off-topic. You should teach Max the words to the Soviet national anthem (in Russian, for effect). They happen to magically coincide beautifully with the melody of "The Spirit of God". :)Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04553041453376209360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-50236691799446736182010-09-05T16:47:17.613-07:002010-09-05T16:47:17.613-07:00This is something I've worried about as I'...This is something I've worried about as I've left my boys in the primary care of their theist father and soon to be stepmother. I worry that they'll miss out on those critical thinking skills. It's part of why I make an effort to take them to the UU congregation when I'm in town--I want to give them a viable alternative for the narrow ways of thinking they'll be taught Lessiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10741982738892350097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-52984926899202394292010-09-05T15:27:30.617-07:002010-09-05T15:27:30.617-07:00I can identify with your son. I was raised an outs...I can identify with your son. I was raised an outsider to our family traditions, the reasons are more relational and familial than anything, but as a child it created a disconnect that carries forth to this day.<br /><br />I'm not criticizing what you're doing though, or trying to cast it in a bad light. Reading your post tugged at my heart, struck pretty deep really. The difference Spyros Heniadishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04973445835843584002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-19120100630107521852010-09-05T15:25:11.439-07:002010-09-05T15:25:11.439-07:00I'm with Craig. Certainly there's a connec...I'm with Craig. Certainly there's a connection between your actions and his feeling like an outsider in gatherings like this, but this seems a small price for what he's gaining, from my (and, I'm assuming, your) perspective. <br /><br />What's frightening to me would be to flip it around, and consider the price that you all would ultimately might pay if he was able to fit in JohnRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01822899155130408891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-51658062471529521672010-09-05T15:16:11.745-07:002010-09-05T15:16:11.745-07:00thank you Craig :)
For the most part, I think we d...thank you Craig :)<br />For the most part, I think we do pretty good. There's a lot of love and acceptance and openness between us. (Fingers crossed as to how it will work as he goes through adolescence).<br /><br />My husband does not attend or participate in church, though his reasons are different than my own. I think that 'belief' for him always took a second seat to unity and galen dara https://www.blogger.com/profile/02987352194018060353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-62982092655915848462010-09-05T14:57:21.659-07:002010-09-05T14:57:21.659-07:00It might be temporarily uncomfortable for your son...It might be temporarily uncomfortable for your son to not know the words to a Mormon hymn, but the fact that you're raising him in a secular, evidence-based, sceptical way is the best thing you could give him. <br /><br />It not easy to be a non-believer as an adult, and certainly not easy as a child, but the critical thinking skills you're teaching him, and the acceptance of all people, Craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09374110841642375968noreply@blogger.com