tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post7082406987650987761..comments2023-04-03T04:00:20.248-07:00Comments on figuring it out...: love and marriage (and spouses changing)Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-6979639148847510322008-10-13T20:07:00.000-07:002008-10-13T20:07:00.000-07:00I think it is healthy for both parties in a marria...I think it is healthy for both parties in a marriage to change through out the years, to stay the same old same old is to give up on life's opportunities.<BR/>There should be a separation of church and love, just like there is (or there is supposed to be) a separation of church and state. Even if you are in the same religion you can have a difference of opinion about rules, guild line and even "Nana"https://www.blogger.com/profile/16094068480376811896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-38510115829307061712008-10-10T23:09:00.000-07:002008-10-10T23:09:00.000-07:00Congrats on joining the Exponent Team - I was so e...Congrats on joining the Exponent Team - I was so excited to see your name added on over there. I look forward to reading more of your posts. They are always thought provoking. Love the painting as well - thanks for sharing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-80958560317732776022008-10-10T18:26:00.000-07:002008-10-10T18:26:00.000-07:00D'arcy, when I married my spouse, part of the deal...D'arcy, when I married my spouse, part of the deal was that I was allowed to raise Mo babies. At the time, I didn't know that I would, but I wanted the option kept completely open to me. As it turns out, it's a good thing I had that stipulation sort of set in stone. If he would go with me to his faith of origin (Episcopalian), I probably would have been content to stay there if we'd gone as a Elizabeth-Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12215621448451413460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-76173157244884450512008-10-10T17:19:00.000-07:002008-10-10T17:19:00.000-07:00G--many of my friends are going through this. Yet ...G--many of my friends are going through this. <BR/><BR/>Yet here is my issue, and it's totally opposite.<BR/><BR/><BR/>This last year I too gave up church attendance and all the commandments that I used to govern my life by.<BR/><BR/>I am at the beginning of a relationship with someone who knows nothing of mormonism, is a great, spiritual person but doesn't hold to ANY of my old beliefs.<BR/><BR/Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17584248569655542892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-36229261364978253362008-10-10T15:51:00.000-07:002008-10-10T15:51:00.000-07:00hear hear! more shakespeare, less annecdotes of l...hear hear! more shakespeare, less annecdotes of love spurned over earrings! :)<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you shared from a singles POV, ayw. while marriage has it's own peculiar set of problems, the issue of individual change usually upsets all of our relationships. <BR/><BR/>(and thanks... I love chagall)galen dara https://www.blogger.com/profile/02987352194018060353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-69699149245947756382008-10-10T15:12:00.000-07:002008-10-10T15:12:00.000-07:00"Love is not love which alters when it alteration ..."Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds."<BR/><BR/>I know I have a different pov here since I'm not in a committed relationship, but my leaving the church was hard on my immediate family. It was hard for me to realize that they don't love me unconditionally. It was a bit odd seeing how much the relationship changed when I gave voice to feelings I had had for years.<BR/><BR/>I angryyoungwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07003381856900634195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-7588501575905519962008-10-10T13:30:00.000-07:002008-10-10T13:30:00.000-07:00thanks guys!chandelle, yeah, when your changing s...thanks guys!<BR/>chandelle, yeah, when your changing so much it can be unnerving, unsettling and scary. <BR/>I trust you, if that helps at all. :)<BR/><BR/>adam- yeah, I've seen a few marriages where there is just so much tension, so much walking on eggshells. <BR/>(keep up the good work you do!)<BR/><BR/>numistmatist facts- not a problem at all! (and I appreciate you sharing your story) I galen dara https://www.blogger.com/profile/02987352194018060353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-72481334046069768662008-10-10T12:26:00.000-07:002008-10-10T12:26:00.000-07:00When I married my husband I was not active in the ...When I married my husband I was not active in the church, or not very active, anyway. We've been married 12 years, and over time, I have reconnected, recommitted, worked things out. What has been really hard for me is exactly what you're talking about. I have felt like I pulled a bait and switch maneuver. I would imagine that you might feel similar. <BR/>I started my first temple prep class this Elizabeth-Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12215621448451413460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-59473703360527711942008-10-10T11:21:00.000-07:002008-10-10T11:21:00.000-07:00One more thing, the whole earring thing? Crazy, b...One more thing, the whole earring thing? Crazy, but maybe lucky for the girl.The Numismatisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15087097629745984272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-82107492051001789742008-10-10T11:17:00.000-07:002008-10-10T11:17:00.000-07:00When I drifted away from the church many years ago...When I drifted away from the church many years ago my mother had a tough time, although she was wise enough not to press me. I had been recently divorced after a temple marriage and at age 30 was discovering that there was much more that I wanted to experience.<BR/><BR/>Fast forward twenty five years. In the last six months all of her anger and resentments over my leaving the church has The Numismatisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15087097629745984272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-82422282593976195842008-10-10T08:35:00.000-07:002008-10-10T08:35:00.000-07:00"There tends to be much less said about what to do..."There tends to be much less said about what to do when that special someone changes after marriage."<BR/><BR/>This is a huge issue, one that many couples seem to suffer with. Some of it is unavoidable, perhaps, but a lot of it can be dealt with if the couple works on their relationship throughout their lives, rather than just when real problems appear. From a therapist's perspective, couples adamfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06177880599252455507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4319139334819650146.post-1874178347623300912008-10-10T08:00:00.000-07:002008-10-10T08:00:00.000-07:00Jeremy and I are very lucky that we went through t...Jeremy and I are very lucky that we went through this together. We went through a period where we diverged on the opinion of action, what we were going to DO with our disaffection. Things were strained and confused between us for a long time as we tried to figure out exactly what we believed and what that meant for our marriage. But we came out on the other side together. <BR/><BR/>Things C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06278966723822635150noreply@blogger.com